Beyond Your Comfort Zone
How embracing your adoptive country's social customs unlocks doors you didn't know existed
When you visit neighbors or friends, observe their customs and adapt accordingly while you’re with them.
Recently, I attended an event and joined two students I met there for a Happy Hour session. If you’ve ever attended one, you know the environment - food, drinks, loud music, low lighting, people standing in groups and talking. I’m used to it.
The three of us formed our own discussion pocket while dining and enjoying drinks. Then one of us said, “Let’s go outside.”
I asked why.
“It’s too loud here. That’s why I’ve been literally shouting so you guys can hear me.”
The other guy and I laughed. I told him, while our companion nodded in agreement, “But that’s part of Canadian culture. It’s an important cultural practice. In fact, I’ve noticed that a lot of important conversations happen during moments like this in pubs and parties. I’ve had unexpected interviews, job offers, and made meaningful connections in places like this - you’d be surprised.”
It may feel strange, but when you’re in your neighbor’s house or your adoptive country, you need to learn and adapt. Canadians appreciate being socially comfortable with the people they interact with regularly, and these informal settings are where relationships deepen and opportunities emerge.
If attending Happy Hours or similar events isn’t your thing, that’s fine. Find other cultural practices to embrace, because cultural adaptation is a critical piece of your integration and lasting success. It’s not about losing yourself - it’s about expanding your comfort zone to create opportunities you might otherwise miss.
Dapo Bankole